Archive for March, 2013

Kira Moore's Closet

One of the interesting things about writing here is it gives others a small glimpse into my head. Though what appears here is much less chaotic than my thought process thanks to editing as much as my being forced to think clearly in order to get things across in a way which won’t drive people insane…

I was going to write a much longer post, but I realized I was over thinking things… not as if I haven’t been accused of that before…

Maybe it is because I am listening to Kevin Wood’s album, “Kindred” or maybe I’m just in a reflective mood; whatever the case, I was writing when a memory came to mind and for just a moment everything else was washed away and I was left with a small smile on my lips and tears in my eyes.

I saw, once again, a small child standing in…

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Peaceful Protest in Arizona Bathrooms

Posted: March 31, 2013 in LGBTQ

A.J. Walkley

It’s time to call for a protest. A peaceful protest. Now that the politicians of the state of Arizona have passed a bill that directly attacks trans* individuals, I am wondering how many Arizonians will come together to peacefully protest such an egregious act by choosing to go into a different gender’s bathroom at every opportunity that presents itself.

Be willing to make a scene.

Be willing to be chastised.

Be willing to be thrown out.

Even be willing to get arrested to prove to legislators that this law is discriminatory; this law has the potential to put the safety of trans* individuals at stake; this law is plain wrong.

It will take some guts. It’s not always easy to go into a facility that is not “for you.” Cisgender individuals rarely if ever have to feel the discomfort that trans* and gender queer individuals feel when…

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Global Equality Today

Repost from the Huffington Post

For decades the word “gay” was almost never heard in formal meetings at the United Nations. Today, after a series of recent diplomatic breakthroughs, awareness of the gravity and extent of homophobic violence and discrimination — and the need to tackle it — is widespread and growing.

UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon and his human rights chief Navi Pillay have led the way. In 2010 they launched a global appeal for the decriminalization of homosexuality and for other measures to safeguard the rights of LGBT people. Since then they have taken up the issue repeatedly in public speeches and private meetings, urging governments to confront homophobic prejudice, not pander to it, and to punish violence and hatred, not love. Continue Reading

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Marriage Equality is For All

Posted: March 31, 2013 in LGBTQ

Transendent Lives

I’ve said it before, marriage equality is a trans issue. Matt Kailey has said it’s a trans issue. Monica Roberts has discussed how it becomes an issue for trans people. Whatever your views on it (and the three of us have different views on the same issue), we can all agree that it does affect trans people.

Unfortunately, as Monica points out, it doesn’t always affect us in a positive way. Sometimes, it affects us negatively. Sometimes, the conflicts between organizations and groups become even more pronounced over this issue. Take for example the Human Rights Campaign’s recent push to have people change their Facebook profile pictures to a red version of the HRC equality symbol. I’ve known a number of trans folk who got up in arms over it (myself included, once awake enough to remember their history) and refused to do so, choosing instead other symbols to…

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[the gender train]

Posted: March 31, 2013 in All Things Trans, LGBTQ


I’m moving in with my girlfriend this Monday. April fools. Are we fools for thinking this is a good idea? What will happen when the dust settles and we stare into each others’ eyes each morning wondering how we got here? Is this the first step towards getting married? Or is this as good as it gets?

When I came out as trans back in 2004 I was pretty sure that meant I would never get married. Heck, I couldn’t imagine ever dating again. Who would want to date a freak like me? Even before my transition, marriage just didn’t seem to be in the cards. Yet here I am, now legally male but still genderqueer; my partner and I look like any regular couple when we walk down the street. People smile at us approvingly when we hold hands in public. Just a few weeks ago, a woman yelled…

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He, she and…

Posted: March 31, 2013 in All Things Trans, LGBTQ

We Matter Media

Two Face

Although identifying people and actions as feminine or masculine has long been commonplace in North American culture, more and more people are stepping out of the binary gender system. Non-gender conformists and those transitioning from one gender to another are having to identify and be addressed as something they are not for lack of an alternative. Research suggests that removing the traditional male and female identifiers may create all sorts of positive changes within society, and not just for the minority.

Identifying as transgender is not an easy feat, especially for youth. A national U.S. survey conducted by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network in 2006 found 90 percent of transgender respondents reported hearing negative remarks about one’s gender, specifically remarks about not being feminine or masculine enough. Introducing a gender neutral pronoun to everyday language may, albeit slowly, rid the traditional assumption that matching sex and gender is…

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I Went To A Drag Show

Posted: March 31, 2013 in All Things Trans, LGBTQ

Pronouns Can Be Offsetting

Posted: March 31, 2013 in All Things Trans

TransgenderTangents's Blog

I’ve started to ask more and more people to use male pronouns for me.

Sometimes it is still trippy to hear people say “he” and “him” when talking about me. I sometimes feel like I have to have my poker face on so that people don’t know how happy that makes me feel.

Sometimes I get jumpy when I hear people use “he” and “him” when talking about me. I feel like my whole core has been exposed. That my poker face has failed and people can see all of my cards. I feel like people can see my insides and I don’t like that. I still feel so vulnerable regarding pronouns.

It’s all just about hearing it constantly and being validated in that way. I’m sure when I was a gooey, pooey little baby booger I didn’t realize that my pronouns were “she” and “her” but they were said…

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